Our mindset and attitude is everything – it governs the way you perceive the world and the way the world perceives you.
We all have control of our mindset and attitude. It is a choice. We can choose an inner dialogue of self-encouragement and self-motivation, or we can choose one of self-sabotage and self-pity. It’s a simple power each and every one of us has. We all encounter challenging and tough times, hurt feelings, heartache, physical and emotional pain throughout our lives – non of us are super human! The real key is to realise it’s not what happens to you that matters; it’s how you choose to respond. This is within our control.
Put quite simply, your mind is similar to a computer - that can be programmed. You can choose what software is installed. The soft wear you choose to upload can be either productive or unproductive. Your mindset is the software – this softwear programs your attitude, which determines how you present yourself to the world around you. You have control over the programming.
Many of us have behavior patterns today that were programmed into our brains at a very early age. Have you ever thought - that the information that was recorded by our brains could be completely inaccurate and not a realistic reflection of actual reality. Un resourceful attitudes are often the product of past experiences and events which form as habits. Common nonproductive attitudes include low self-esteem and self-worth, stress, fear, resentment, anger, self-sabotage and an inability to handle change. All of these can be easily re programed. You have the control to replace them with empowering beliefs and attitudes. For example unlink restrictive feelings such as uncertainty and the need for control - and replace them with excitement, possibility, opportunity and potential.
The loudest and most influential voice you hear is your own inner voice – which is your ego, your self-critic. It can work for or against you, depending on the messages you allow. It can be optimistic or pessimistic. It can wear you down or be your cheerleader. You have full control of this inner voice, but only if you consciously take responsibility for it and be aware that YOU are in control.
Having an awareness of these untruthful mindsets and attitudes is the first step. The next step is as easy as telling yourself they are no longer true ……. and replacing them with a new version of reality. The rewards of ridding ourselves of these damaging attitudes come instantly with the seeing of new opportunities, clearer goals and improved clarity of what it is that you want to do. And the beauty of this – is that it can last a lifetime.
Here are 10 strategies to improve your attitude:
- Self-Motivation Through Discovering Your Motivation
Discover what motivates you - what excites you to take action to change your life. Self-motivation requires enthusiasm, passion, an adventurous spirit, a positive physiology, and a real belief in yourself and your potential.
- Re Vamp Your Beliefs
Replace and override any un resourceful talk and negative attitudes with conscious new strong positive beliefs that assist in achieving your goals and focusing on what it is that is important. Some of these new beliefs could be; I am good enough, I have all that I need within me now, There is no better time than now, I am worth it, You don't need to be 100% before giving something a go, Strive to be better - don't be happy with just OK, Challenge brings out the best in me, Bring certainty to everything I do.
- Enthusiasm: Vital Tool for Staying Motivated
Enthusiasm is the key to keeping motivated and having a real passion for what you are doing. It’s the burning desire that communicates commitment, determination, adventure and spirit. Enthusiasm assists in allowing you to take action and putting yourself in motion towards where you want to be. It’s an internal spirit that speaks through your actions from your commitment and your belief in what you are doing. It is one of the most empowering and attractive characteristics you can have.
- Lighten Up Your Life with Humour
Humour is a powerful motivator. The more humour and laughter in your life, the less stress you will have, which means more positive energy to help you have a ‘I can do anything’ attitude. Don’t take yourself so seriously – lighten up. Laughter is the shortest distance between two people.
- Exercising Will Help Keep You Motivated
One of the best ways to move to a more positive and motivated frame of mind is to exercise. A regular exercise routine can provide relatively quick positive feedback in the form of weight loss, muscle development and a sense of doing something positive for yourself. By scheduling exercise into your weekly routine, it will help with balance and help with clarity and focus.
- Believe in Yourself – Have the Confidence
Once you decide to give something a go – back yourself 100% and know that you will not only achieve the task and goal you have set for yourself, but you will do it well. Having confidence is admired by all others around you. Believe in yourself, believe that you can achieve anything you set your mind to. Having self-confidence and self-love are two of the most attractive traits anyone can have.
- When is a Better Time? Make a Start – Take Action
Procrastination is often a result of having an attitude of self-doubt. What is it that you are waiting for? Know that you have all that you need within you now - to have a go, to make a start. There is never going to be a better time – there is never going to be an ideal time. Be conscious of what part of your mindset and attitude is holding you back. Re-adjust and re-set those beliefs and attitude, make a start and take the first action towards the end goal and dream. Enjoy the sense of progress as you take action.
- Self-Coaching Through Affirmations
Affirmations written down, read or repeated several times each day, every day, serve to reprogram your subconscious with positive thinking. An affirmation is made up of words charged with power, conviction and belief. Affirmations send a positive response to your subconscious, which accepts whatever you tell it. When done properly with true belief, this triggers positive feelings that, in turn, drive action.
- The Power of Visualisation
Studies of the psychology of peak performance have found that most great athletes, surgeons, engineers and artists use visualisations either consciously or subconsciously to enhance and focus their skills. Have a vision of completing your goal or challenge. Feel the satisfaction and sense of achievement. Reward yourself and celebrate the wins to keep up the motivation. If you visualise where it is you want to get to and then more importantly – who is it that I need to be (what qualities do I need to have) to get to where I want to be.
- What We Focus On - Is What We Get
We often find ourselves focusing on what it is we don’t want, how we don’t want to feel, how others are treating us etc. We focus on the things we lack and the things that we don’t want, as opossed to what it is that we want. What we focus on – is what we will get. By Focusing on the end goal and focusing the right mindset and attitude – we are going to be moving forward towards where it is we want to get to.
Natalie is a Development and Success Coach, as well as a Human Behavioural Profiler.
Ph: 0466 531 988